Dr. Judith Wright | July 8, 2015

4 Ways To Be
Your Partner’s Best Friend

Ever wonder why we’re so inspired by the heroes of the stories that recur in our cultures? You know, the ones like the myths or quests we all know…


Ulysses in the Odyssey, Luke Skywalker in Star Wars, or Katniss in the Hunger Games. But, they didn’t go on their quests alone.

They had allies. Odysseus had Athena. Luke Skywalker had Obi-Wan Kenobi. Katniss had Peeta.

Allies bring out the best in each other. True allies not only support you when things are tough, but they also inspire and challenge you when all is going well.

And, you may not realize it, but your partner can be your strongest ally. Here are four ways you can be your partner’s best friend:

1. Support your partner’s vision

You can be a great ally to your partner by supporting him or her to be his or her absolute best. Help your partner pursue his or her vision of his or her best self. When you affirm each other’s ideal selves, both of you will experience more satisfaction in your relationship.

2. Take every opportunity to work on your relationship

Your relationship can provide the support for you to achieve your dreams. Whether you are fighting, playing, doing chores, or making love, every interaction can be an opportunity to grow and transform. Every time you interact, you can be “sculpting” one another.

3. Appreciate your partner

Allies appreciate each other for who they are. You mirror the vision your partner inspires in you that is consistent with your own goals for yourself. It’s not about changing your partner to your standards, but believing in his or her potential and supporting him or her as your partner moves in the direction of big dreams. We often need our loved ones and others to activate our yearning—it’s hard to yearn for something if you don’t even know it exists or if you have already ruled it out for yourself because of your own limiting beliefs!

4. Work on being your best self

The more your relationship results in you becoming a better person, the better. The more you grow, the better your relationship, because you then contribute to your partner’s expanding. The more self-expansion you experience from each other—whether new ideas, different ways of being, novel experiences, perspectives, or knowledge—the more satisfied and committed you’ll be in your relationship.

To learn more about how to make your partner your best friend, you can order our relationship book, The Heart of The Fight, available now on Amazon.

About the Author


Dr Judith Wright is a media favorite, sought-after inspirational speaker, respected leader, peerless educator, bestselling author, & world-class coach. She is a co-founder of Wright and the Wright Graduate University.

Wright Living is a division of the Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential, a leadership institute located in Chicago, Illinois. Wright Living performative learning programs are integrated into the curriculum at Wright Graduate University.