Identify the Limiting Beliefs in Your Life to Develop More Intimate Relationships

Families who participate in our program and are working on having the greatest amount of intimacy possible often find that there are certain fallacies in their belief systems that they have to overcome.

Each fallacy can be thought of as a limiting belief and those limiting beliefs can keep critical thinking from taking place.  For example, the family that I grew up in acted like they were better than anybody else on the block and were critical of others.  We thought we had it so good that it couldn’t get any better.  It took me years to see the fallacy in that and required a great deal of emotional work before I could critically think about the issue.

When I engaged in critical thinking I thought, “Of course there were problems with my family.”  Our tradition indicated that there were no problems and I was taught critical thinking skills in school but had not really learned to apply those critical thinking skills to my family of origin where I had certain limiting beliefs. Years and years from the first time that I broke through to higher order thinking skills that require a good amount of emotional intelligence, I am still overcoming these limiting beliefs.  The first mistaken belief that I had to overcome was probably that my family was ideal and we were better than others.  I found that in order to maintain that mythology, I had ignored a lot of my earliest experiences: times I was afraid of my father, times that I did not feel loved by my mother.  Don’t misunderstand me, I think I had unusually loving and attentive parents.  But my lack of critical thinking about my family showed up in terms of idealizing them.

The belief systems that I was raised among didn’t allow me to reason critically enough to see that of course there were existing issues and problems.

Learn to let go of our limiting beliefs. It is worthwhile to review and revitalize our belief systems.

By doing this, I have been more capable to have a growing intimate relationship with my wife.  I have less need for my staff to project positive things on me.  As a matter of fact, I was just at two days of training with my senior staff and received a great deal of criticism and I’m proud of the fact that in our business the staff can deliver that criticism.  Some of them were afraid and they’re still functioning from traditional belief systems and haven’t really developed the progressive critical reasoning that we teach at our programs.

In summary, if we really want to have intimate relationships, we have to develop our critical thinking skills.  We have to be able to identify limiting beliefs, challenge those limiting beliefs, and operate from a higher order of thinking that allows us to say things that would have been unsaid in our former, more limited traditional belief system.

Do you want to learn more about removing limiting beliefs and reaching your full potential? Visit Wright Now to improve your relationships, find and achieve your career goals, and inspire your personal development. Check out our course listings now!

Wright Living is a division of the Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential, a leadership institute located in Chicago, Illinois. Wright Living performative learning programs are integrated into the curriculum at Wright Graduate University.

Getting My Butt Kicked By Gender Roles


I was at a wedding a number of years ago, and I was seated next to the bride’s sister who had much to say about gender roles. She was a PhD in science and was telling me that a big part of her mission was to change gender stereotypes in grade school because gender stereotypes and gender roles in the media and everywhere we go were limiting girls’ identity and chances of following traditionally male careers. Gender roles for girls, for example, didn’t identify with being scientists. Back then, even more than today, we would refer to any scientist as “he.”

As she was telling me this, I gave her some grief because I thought gender roles were a trivial and meaningless issue.

She then proceeded to kick my butt with statistics and just plain old common sense about gender stereotypes as she told me about gender theory and the importance of trying to change gender roles in the family and in society so that girls had an equal chance to be athletes, scientists, doctors, and that this was not inconsequential.

By the time she was done, I realized that I was not only full of baloney but that I was a primary part of the problem, and it wasn’t just gender roles in the media. It was basically Neanderthal men like me that were a major part of the problem. I had subscribed to gender role beliefs about what men were and what women were, and even though I might have pretended that I was extremely liberal, that was part of the problem that sociological gender theory is trying to expose.  Gender theory is discovered by pointing out that a great deal of who we become is a function of not only gender roles in the family but it is a function of our overall society, what we read in the media about gender roles, and how we talk to each other.

Since then, I have noticed the degree of sexism of gender roles in my own language and sought to change.

This is incumbent on me for my role in facilitating the best in all students in whatever way their next most radiant self is emerging. Wright Graduate University and Wright Business and in everything we do, whether it’s for credit or non-credit, is maximizing human potential. When there are limitations in gender roles, that doesn’t maximize someone’s potential and our potential is being limited from the time our gender roles are ascribed in our family, in grade school and by what we see in the media.

Along with me, it is all of our jobs to monitor ourselves and help expand the freedom of women to choose an identity that flows from their deeper yearnings, a key part of our Transformed! The Science of Spectacular Living technology. How can transformation happen without this freedom from gender roles? It is by following yearning that people become their best and transform. So let’s clear the way for others and ourselves. First of all, by following their deeper yearnings and engaging from those, people learn more. And so they are helping our society transform to reduce limitations in gender roles, in the media, in the family, and in everything else we do.

For today, I am simply inviting you to join me in a little introspection about our gender roles attitudes and our prejudices that limit the possibilities of people around you—many of whom are our loved ones. Wright Now has courses available to help you navigate the confusing waters of life. Expand your mind and be transformed!


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Wright Living is a division of the Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential, a leadership institute located in Chicago, Illinois. Wright Living performative learning programs are integrated into the curriculum at Wright Graduate University.


do i need a life coach


One of the buzzwords du jour is life coaching. What exactly is a life coach and how do you know if you need one? We are here to address the many misconceptions surrounding the practicality, utility and premise of what exactly a life coach does and who would benefit most from having one.

Life coaching tends to be a very ambiguous term because it can help a whole plethora of individuals spanning every profession, age group, ethnicity and country. It is not cut and dry like earning your Juris Doctorate to become an attorney. However, the International Coaching Federation (ICF) was created in 1995 to establish accredited certification and curriculum programs to set industry precedence and assist in regulating standards. With that being said, it is imperative for an individual or corporations seeking coaching services to receive a comprehensive background assessment to know if the coach is indeed qualified.


do i need a life coach

At Wright, our life coaches hold at least Master’s degrees in related fields such as Counseling, Social Work, Communications, Psychology, and minimum of 500 additional hours of training. On top of our fundamental rigorous training program of at least 300 hours in one-on-one interaction, 100 hours in human growth and development training, 50 hours in vision realization training, 50 hours in principled living training, 50 hours in team building, our coaches also participate in ongoing courses to enhance their development.


That was a long way to say, we are pretty darn confident that our life coaches know what they are doing! MAKE SURE your life coach is qualified and has ample experience.



do i need a life coach

Life coaches focus on the area(s) you are seeking to improve in and support you to fulfill your goals. Life coaches can assist in the realms of family and relationship, professional and spiritual development, career and achievement of financial abundance, as well as help you to eliminate roadblocks in all areas of your life.


That sounds all fine and dandy, but what goes on in a life coaching session?


do i need a life coach
Students at Wright Graduate University, studying transformational leadership and coaching


For starters, depending upon what you want to accomplish, the first order of action is to outline a roadmap of goals and how to achieve them. The best life coaches are trained to hone in on underlying emotions. For instance, if a client is seeking to become wealthy a life coach would identify not only HOW to get there, but WHAT is underneath the desire for wealth – what deeper needs is the person trying to meet by making more money?

Many hidden emotions and truths are unveiled during coaching sessions. The client seeking wealth may actually be trying to meet his deeper yearning for a full and satisfying life by focusing on a much simpler material goal. A client that wants to lose weight might truly be trying to meet a yearning to be loved and accepted. When we understand what deeper needs we are truly trying to meet, we can often find ways to meet our yearnings directly and ultimately become more satisfied.

do i need a life coach


After learning about life coaches, you might wonder – Do I need a life coach? While you don’t necessarily need a life coach like you need food or shelter, life coaching can help you create a richer and more fulfilling life for yourself. If you have ever wondered if there could be something more in life, sought a higher purpose, wanted deeper relationships, or wanted to make a difference in the world and know you matter, a life coach might just be the thing to help you get there.


Learn more about Wright Living’s Life Coaching in Chicago, Self Development Courses, and Relationship Courses.